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Stand and be heard
Bullies believe they are invisible or invincible -- bring the bullying activity into the open.
Call it what it is: bullying.
Garner support by asking to speak at a PTA or school board meeting, safety committee or with the Human Resources Vice President. Call the Neighborhood Liasion in your community.
Tell your family members and ask for help -- you don’t have to handle this alone.
Talk with a guidance counselor, Human Resources, the police -- the more eyes watching, the better.
Ask the community to acknowledge that bullying is a form of hate crime.
Help one another develop self awareness
Recognize your worth, your potential and your magnificent humanity.Watch which bullying comments stick to you; ask yourself why you believe what they are saying.
Ask people whose opinion you value to share what they see in you.
Seek positive reinforcement -- standing up to the bully is its own form of positive reinforcement.
Build community awareness about bullying
Identify the specific community and family behaviors that support bullying.Bring in speakers to educate the community on the causes of and remedies for bullying.
Set the expectation that community members be aware of bullying and act when they see it.
Create Bully-Free Zones (integrated with systems like Neighborhood Watch).
Certify neighborhood and/or organizational Bully-Free Living advisors.
Ask the community to acknowledge that bullying is a form of hate crime.
Create a bully-free support system at school
Start or join a bully-free support group at school.Ask teachers or counselors to act as champions for Bully-Free Living.
Bully Free Zones
At the Institute we are a passionate about educating, training and inspiring people about everyone's right to Bully Free Living. Whether it be in the workplace, the schoolyard, your neighborhood or any organization, it is time to address bullying, stop it first, prevent it from reoccurring, and begin to heal the damage. Each of us deserves to live in a bully free zone.
Surveys are an important way we continue to understand bullying. Please take time to complete one or more that are on the various website pages. Go to the section that describes your situation, take a moment and tell us your story. Surveys are free, anonymous and will help to pass legislation and bring awareness. Complete it today!
We are changing the current accepted model of bullying.
The accepted model of bullying is comprised of three elements: The bully, the victim and the bystander. Social Courage changes this model thus minimizing and stopping bullying. When the bystander stands up against bullying, the model begins to collapse thus helping the victim, stopping the bully and allows for the healing to begin for everyone. Begin a wall of social courage in your neighborhood, school, workplace, or organization today!
What is bullying? What is the bystander effect? What is Social Courage?
Bullying can be exclusion, name calling, overloading or underloading of work, gossip, silent treatment, harassment, or violence (mental, emotional and physical). These, and many more, are all subtle to overt forms of hate crimes. Bullying takes place in person, through a surrogate(s), and|or in cyberspace when it is called CyberBullying. Bullies often single out an individual, sometimes a child. They may act alone or in a pack to harass that person or child, even to the point of suicide. The violent nature of bullying can leave a person with life long scars or with what they see as no way out. Because of that Bullycide, bullying that leads to suicide, is a growing concern.
Bystanders, no more! No longer can we be bystanders watching and hoping someone else will stand up to bullies. The time for resignation to the bully's presence is past. Neither can we support and assist bullies by identifying with the bully or the victim. It is time to step beyond concepts of both bully and victim.
Possessing Social Courage means being willing to stand up at your school, neighborhood and workplace to stop bullying now. It means taking a stand for each other and for ourselves, claiming each person's right to develop into their full potential. When we stand down, we all lose for we are the ultimate victims of bullying.
Contact us for more information on training and presentations in your workplace, neighborhood, school or organization.
See our bios and contact information on the Mentions page.
Cay Humphryes - bullyfreeliving@live.com- 503-701-2191
Email us at: Bullyfreeliving@live.com
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Living bully free begins with awareness and leads to action.
