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Bullies believe they are invisible or invincible -- bring the bullying activity into the open.
The cycle of bullying and abuse can be traced through generations.
In one case an adult bully bragged how he bullied a sibling who eventually committed suicide.
Always be careful outing a bully as it can escalate and become a violent situation. Know all your options before confronting a bully alone.
If a victim fights back the bully will say, "See, they're the real bullies.
We are the real victim."
Bullies often will lie about what they have done and are doing. A bully will deny it or claim they are the 'real' victim. Be ready for this to happen. Don't let their lies affect you.
Bullies will often find a sidekick - a person or group- they will 'use' for their own gain. In their path there are often many individuals they have manipulated and 'used.'
Bullies are very convincing story tellers often gaining sympathy and 'assistants' who help them bully. Rest assured, bullies will 'use' these people then turn on them. Often their sidekick is terrified of being the next victim.
In cases we have seen bullies tell bold-faced lies to the police when questioned. Even after they are caught in the lie, they never told the truth.
Bullies are likely to be narcissists never taking responsibility for their actions. Never.
Adult bullies are likely to have extramarital affairs and lie about them to their spouses and children even after they are exposed.
We have seen multiple cases where adults bullied children, some kids as young as pre-school.
The best step you can do for any bully is to help them face what they have done and to get help before they hurt anyone another family member, neighbor, colleague or pet.
Some websites put more emphasis on what the victim can do differently. We do not blame victims or hold them responsible. This is not the emphasis that you will find in our philosophy.
In our site we put more emphasis on defining bullying, stopping a bully and encouraging a bully to get help. Finally, and most importantly, we are calling into action bystanders who witness bullying asking them to step up and in some way, help to stop bullying using Social Courage.
We can stop bullying with awareness that leads to action.
Take a Stand for Bully Free Living
We are a passionate about educating, training and inspiring people about everyone's right to Bully Free Living. Whether it be in the workplace, the schoolyard, your neighborhood or any organization, it is time to address bullying, stop it first, prevent it from reoccurring, and begin to heal the damage. Each of us deserves to live in a bully free zone.
Don't let a bully divert you or your child from your magnificence. Bully proof yourself and your children with empowerment.
What is bullying?
Bullying can be exclusion, name calling, overloading or underloading of work, gossip, silent treatment, harassment, or violence (mental, emotional and physical).
These, and many more, are all subtle to overt forms of hate crimes. Bullying takes place in person, through a surrogate(s) or assistants or sidekicks, and|or in cyberspace when it is called CyberBullying.
We are changing the model of bullying
The current accepted model is comprised of three elements; the Bully, the Victim and the Bystander. When we change these elements to Healing, Inclusion, Social Courage, and Empowerment, the very nature of bullying can be changed and stopped.
Bullies often single out an individual, sometimes a child. They may act alone or in a pack to harass that person or child, even to the point of suicide. The violent nature of bullying can leave a person with life long scars or with what they see as no way out. Because of that Bullycide, bullying that leads to suicide, is a growing concern.
Most bullies are bullied and abused at home. A bully may not even realize it is not okay to live in pain and cause pain to other people including their children.
Bystanders, no more! No longer can we be bystanders watching and hoping someone else will stand up to bullies. The time for resignation to the bully's presence is past. No longer can we ignore or assist bullies.
Contact us at bullyfreeliving@live.com
Living bully free begins with awareness and leads to action.
